How many times have we listened to our negative inner voices? You know the voices, the ones that tell us we aren't good enough, ask the "what if" questions like what if I fail?, the ones that seem to know what everyone else thinks of us, and any other inner voice you are thinking of.
We aren't good enough
We ARE good enough! Sometimes we just have to remind ourselves and that is wonderful! Wonderful? Yes, you know why? Because it allows us to take a real hard look at ourselves, break through all of the CRAP, and get to the real beautiful and wonderful, US.
What if I fail?
Yeah and....? So what if you fail? What could happen that could be so bad that isn't worth moving forward ever? We are human. We are not perfect no matter how badly we want to be. Besides, being perfect would be absolutely boring. If we accept every "failure" as an opportunity to learn from, then that is the best gift ever. We say, yep it would have been nice if this happened but instead I got to learn this and TRY TRY AGAIN.
They are thinking __________ (add negative descriptor here) about me.
First, we are making an assumption that we know what someone else is thinking. I mean, I know we are intuitive creatures but this is a little far-fetched. We cannot possibly know what someone else is thinking just because our inner voice tells us so.
Second, if we are being true to our self, being respectful and not doing harm to others, than who cares? I mean really, who cares? I have been working on this FOREVER (for another blog).
So...to the JUICY part...how do we talk back to all of these voices? Let me explain in the form of 2 steps.
1. Respond internally to your inner voice when you hear it, in the positive. For example:
Inner Voice: You are not good enough.
You: Thank you inner voice, but I simply do not need you. I am absolutely good enough. I am kind, strong and caring. (say 3 positive affirmations here).
This may seem simple but if you continuously respond to this voice in this way, it will simply not come around anymore and you will begin knowing the truth of the positive affirmations.
2. If your inner voice wants to continue talking then briefly continue the conversation and come back to step 1.
Inner Voice: But really, do you remember that time when you failed? See, you really aren't good enough.
You: A "failure" is just an opportunity to learn from. Besides, there is no evidence that the past must repeat itself.
Then repeat your step 1 response above of Thank you inner voice, but I simply do not need you. I am absolutely good enough. I am kind, strong and caring. (say 3 positive affirmations here).
I know this may seem weird to talk back to your inner voice, but give it a try. It is a much better approach than ignoring it or pretending its not there.